Season 9 of 90 Day Fiancé has been tumultuous, with the future of many of the couples uncertain as the show nears the end of its season. Being a reality star requires sharing the ups and downs of a relationship with the public, including forums such as Reddit where viewers come together todiscuss the show on its dedicated subreddit.
Though every couple is unique, they all share the problems that arise when a decision as serious as marriage must be decided in merely 90 days. As the clock ticks down for each couple this season, there are several concerns are at the forefront of viewers minds, who are wondering which couples will be able to survive the difficulties playing out in their relationships.
Cheating
Two of season 9's stars were reluctant to discuss past infidelities with their fiancés. Both Kara Bass and Patrick Mendes' stories explore the long term effects of cheating in both life and love.
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"How in the f--- do you forget you cheated?" asked Reddit user TattooedKewpieBaby after Kara admits she forget she cheated on herprevious boyfriend,a revelation that has her fiancé Guillermo Rojer concerned for their future. Patrick and Thais Ramone are also facing trust issues after Patrick's admission that he cheated both as an Olympic athlete as well as a partner, early in their relationship. Cheating pasts scream "red flag" for fans who don't want to see their favorite castmatesheartbroken.
Children
The idea of parenthood is heavy on the minds of season 9's castmates, some of whom already share a child, such as Kobe Blaise and Emily Bieberly. For Shaeeda Sween, having children is the ultimate goal of her marriage, but fans are worried her dreams may never become a reality, as least not with her current fiancé, Bilal Hazziez.
Reddit user readytogohomenow worries for Shae's uncertain future: "I'm seriously worried that she's going to marry him, he's going to keep giving her vague answers and then tell her he doesn't want kids when it's too late. He's going to rob her of her ability to be a mother and that saddens me because I think she would be a great mom." Viewers are hoping this major red flag won't be the downfall of this couple by the end of season 9.
Insecurity
Many castmates struggle with insecurity, a red flag that can lead to the detriment of a relationship, no matter how strong it is otherwise. Despite insecurity causing one of Ari and Biniyam'swildest fights, viewers are particularly concerned for the way Thais uses her insecurity to bring down others.
"Being insecure and needing reassurance is one thing," explains Redditor mouseofthehousenj, "but having to put down other women and call them ugly, what is that? I caught it twice." In addition to this toxic commentary on Patrick and Thais' part, another ongoing conflict in their relationship is Patrick's refusal to continue sharing his phone location with her. Though they both share responsibility, Patrick's past may be to blame for their present issues.
Driving
Taking care of a family without a mode of transportation becomes difficult, as seen in an episode during which Biniyam had to be driven to the store by his fiancé's ex-husband to retrieve a pregnancy test. Unfortunately, they aren't the only couple whose conflict over driving has many viewers flaring the red flag.
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Shaeeda was nearly left on the side of the highway after playfully swatting at Bilal, but it's Kobe and Emily that concern Reddit user VividlyDissosociating. "What really got me is whenhe got upset that Emily didn't want him driving his first time in America with their baby in the car. That is 100% reasonable." Less serious than baby talk or cheating, this red flag may be resolved for the couples once they are married and legally able to drive in America.
Finances
Money has been an issue to one degree or another for almost every couple ever on the show. There has been speculation around Bilal's wealth and ifGuillermo truly understands the high costs of living in the States. Despite being a universal concern, viewers are seeing financial red flags in every direction this season.
Emily and Kobe have struggled over finances all season long, from their need for a new bed to Kobe's financial stability. Emily's father was not impressed by his the savings he brought, but Redditors like agathaprickly wish the family would give him more credit. "$4000 is about 5.5 full months of the average Cameroon salary. So Emily's Dad can f--- right off for saying he is 'out of his mind' for thinking $4000 is a lot" they lamented,another 90 DayFiancéseason 9 argument that raises red flags.
Careers
New residents cannot legally work until they've attained their green card. This weighs heavily on the minds of castmates in every season of 90 Day Fiancé as the couples grapple with time limits and budgets, though many 90 Day cast members have gone on to start their own businesseswith success.
While most of the new arrivals can only dream, Bini has found a path he can immediately pursue, MMA fighting, much to the displeasure of his fiancé, Ari. "MMA fighters don't make much money" Ari told the cameras, and Redditors like fightin4right agree. "This is his absolute passion, makes his eyes light up like saucers, will undoubtedly require lots of his time and she will be stuck at home alone a lot, again." The struggle between finances and passions illicit red flags for the Reddit fans.
Culture Shock
Adjusting to life in America is often filled with surprises for new residents who aren't familiar with the countries varying cultures and values. This common theme has continued to raise concerns for the season 9 couples, particularly between Yvette Arellano and Mohamed Abdelhamed.
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"Did these two not speak at all before they decided to do this 90 Day thing?" asks Reddit user AdIll5729. "They don't agree on religion and how to live as a couple without a unified faith. They aren't aligned on how they will raise children. They don't see eye to eye on what women should wear." Viewers are curious to see if they can overcome these reg flags before the end of their 90 days.
Location
America's 50 states offer varying cultural norms, attractions and lifestyles. When couples can't agree on where to call home, fundamental problems arise, a red flag for any marriage.
One of the most geographically discontent castmates is Miona who desperately wishes to get away from Jibri's home in South Dakota, an area that offers none of the glamour of Los Angeles. Redditor TruthOverFiction100 says, "Miona is welcome to move to LA, as long as she can pay for it. She acts like Jibri is the only reason why she isn't living there." Viewers hope this won't be another time in 90 Day Fiancé history that living with in-laws went terribly wrong.
Wedding Plans
Wedding Planning is a stressful undertaking for any couple, let alone those who do so under a tight timeframe. While some of the couples this season have clashed on ideas for their big day, it seems Kara and Guillermo have struggled the most to plan something that will meet both of their expectations.
Guillermo wishes for a picturesque ceremony though his fiancé Kara continues to harshly remind him that a courthouse wedding would better suit their budget. Redditor lovelyclo465 says, "Kara's delivery is not always the nicest, but she's very right when it comes to wedding plans. He seems to be getting mad at Kara like she's the one holding them back, when in reality they as a couple don't have the funds."
Green Card
Hopeful lovers often fear that their partner may be in it for American citizenship and not true love. Green cards symbolize the ability to attain their dream lives, conversations that spark many debates among fans.
Both Yve and fans like alertbunny were shocked whenMohamed declared, "I want my green card" in episode 11. "I cannot believe Mohamed flat out put it like that! Poor Yve was just as shocked...when is she going to wake up? They have nothing in common regarding values and culture. It's just sad." This Redditor is far from the only fan seeing red flags.
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